Breaking the Silence: Why We Need to Talk About Mental Health

As humans, we are so afraid to share what’s truly going on inside our heads. We put on brave faces, tell ourselves that we’ll be fine, and try to navigate our challenges alone even when we’re quietly falling apart. There’s this deep-seated fear of being a burden, of being “too much,” or of admitting that we’re not okay. But the truth is, silence can be deadly.

I learned this in the most painful way possible, through the loss of my cousin to suicide. It’s something that still shakes me to my core. I often find myself replaying moments, wondering if I could have done more, if I missed something crucial. I tried to intervene, but I was too late. The guilt lingered, heavy and unrelenting.

Looking back, I now see the signs that I didn’t fully grasp at the time, the gradual distancing from friends and family, the increase in drinking, the quietness that replaced laughter, the insistence that “everything’s fine.” Then there were the smiles, those brave, perfect smiles that hid the pain underneath. The signs were there, but I didn’t know how to read them then. Many of us don’t.

We live in a world that encourages strength, resilience, and independence, but not vulnerability. We celebrate success stories, not survival stories. Yet, talking about mental health isn’t weakness -it’s courage. It’s the moment we stop pretending and start healing.

If there’s one thing my cousin’s passing has taught me, it’s the importance of listening -really listening - when someone tells you they’re “okay.” It means asking again, showing up, creating space for honesty, and letting people know they’re not alone. Sometimes, it’s not about having the perfect words. It’s about presence, compassion, and reminding someone that their story matters.

To anyone reading this who might be struggling: please know that your life has value. You are not a burden. You don’t have to face everything on your own. Reach out to a friend, a loved one, a helpline, or anyone who can listen without judgment. And to the rest of us: let’s do better at asking, at noticing, and at caring.

It’s time we stop suffering in silence. Talking about our pain doesn’t make it more real, it makes it manageable. And sometimes, that conversation can save a life.

If You Need Support

If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out for help. You are not alone.

• UK: Samaritans – Call 116 123 (available 24/7) or visit samaritans.org

• US: 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline – Dial 988 (available 24/7)

• South Africa: SADAG (South African Depression and Anxiety Group) – Call 0800 567 567 or SMS 31393

• Canada: Talk Suicide Canada – Call or text 988 (available 24/7)

• International: Visit findahelpline.com, a global directory of free, confidential mental health helplines

Remember, asking for help is not a sign of weakness, it’s an act of strength. Together, we can break the silence and remind each other that hope and healing are always within reach.